The Wind Beneath My Wings

When I was a little girl, Abah taught me how to drink hot tea from the plate. He will pour the tea on a small plate, cool the drink with his little blows and pass me the plate to sip from. To this day, it is our father – daughter ritual. Except that, the table has turned – now, I am the one who would pour the drink and blow the tea for Abah because his sight has deteriorated.

My Pursuit of Happiness

I don’t want to spend the finite time I have in this world looking back in despair and yearning for things that has yet to happen, instead it is my mission to return the kindness, patience and love of this man who has given me nothing short of everything.

Story of Us

We always made it a priority to accommodate each other in any way we can and we tried our best to be the best version of ourselves for each other. That’s why people think we fit like a glove. Truth is, we made us fit together. How many times have I witnessed him go out of his way to make me happy. With him I’ve learned that true love is all about selflessness...and it’s totally worth it!

Celebrating Differences

You see, ever since I started TTW, I began observing the characteristics of us women more. There were times in my life when I preferred to be surrounded by like minded friends, shielding myself away from people who I couldn't relate to - but somewhere along the way, TTW has taught me to celebrate differences. I learn to reach out and to go beyond my comfort zone, and I began to see beauty in everyone, and in every story that I hear.
 

From the Heart of a Mother

My second miracle happened sooner than I expected but Allah has a better plan for my baby. I said hello to my son and had to say good bye 30 minutes later. My son passed away peacefully in my arms. I can still smell and feel him until today, my precious Yusof. I conceived again 6 months later but I lost the pregnancy at 12 weeks. I conceived again 8 months after the miscarriage, and I lost the pregnancy at 11 weeks. According to my doctor, I am physically fit but not emotionally. Deep in my heart, I know she is right...

A Tribute to My Father

As a politician, there may be things that he says or do that is disagreeable to many. Growing up as a politician daughter, I learn pretty early that there will be followers as there will be haters, and people’s praises or comments will not make my father any more or any less of a person. He is the father who has loved and provided for me no matter what, and today, he turns 60.

An Honest Account of A Mother, Mumpreneur and Educator

Many people tell me that I seem to have my cake and eat it. I get to have a career and watch my children grow up. To be honest, there are many times it feels like I am in no man’s land. There were many times I had to carry my baby to a meeting. I receive a few hundred messages a day from parents. I have been assaulted for standing true to our principles. Then there are the up moments my children sprint to me and rain kisses all over me. That I know my children so well and they are happy, balanced and healthy. Or my students chorusing ‘more’ for what I have just cooked or baked. Or the sweet messages parents pause to leave for my team and me. They eclipse the down moments.

Dementia

I remembered vividly what the doctor said on one of our many visits to the hospital, “She’ll reach one stage where she won’t remember you.” My heart sank. How can a mother forget the person she carried for 9 months? Now, 8 years has gone by, she has lost many basic abilities like talking, eating on her own and yes, my greatest fear has come upon me - she no longer remembers me.

On Being Strong

"She suffered 2nd and 3rd degree burns to the entire left side of her body, from top to toe. My daughter spent 3 months in hospital, 1 month totally bedridden and laying only on her right side, connected to tubes and having to undergo countless injections and having skin graft surgery on her face, ear, shoulder and arm."

The Selfless One

"Never have I seen her abandon love, even if love had at one point abandoned her completely. There were many times as I grew up I saw her offering her shoulders for people who needed comfort, even when we knew the one who needed the most comfort was her. There were times I couldn’t understand, why does she kept on giving even when the world seemed to have taken so much from her?"

The Postpartum Depression

"I cried almost everyday especially at dusk. Everybody got so worried especially my husband and my parents. My husband was trying his best to make me feel better, worried that I have succumbed to post-partum depression."

Creating The Balance

"Of course its a constant struggle to create a balance, and as parents, we are learners along the way. But we strive our very best to make it work. And as adults, being petty when you have children is never an option."

The Ideal Weight

"My ideal weight is not fixed to one number, it will fluctuate from time to time but more importantly, my ideal weight would not affect my state of happiness. The weight that is not consumed by what others say. The 'weight' of my body that I comfortably carry to present myself, to stand up for myself."

The Fisherman

"My husband took everything in his stride - not once did I hear him complaint of his sudden and rapid health deterioration. Through it all he remained the calm and brave fisherman that I knew thirty years ago."

Make Someone Happy

"Simple words, but have we? Tell us something you did today that made someone happy and let's keep the momentum rolling! For me, I offered my keropok lekor to my colleague today at work...he didnt take the offer, but I'd like to think it makes him happy!"

The Gap Year

"I pretty much put my existing life on pause button when I decided to leave the country for a year, in pursuit for the trip of a lifetime - a trip to rediscover myself."

Going Back to Work

"I have to be responsible for the choices that I have made in life, including my choice to have a career. Just because it is difficult does not make it a bad choice."

The Captain's Daughter

"I can still feel our last hug, and if I knew, I would have never let him go. But I know, I am the captain’s daughter and by captain’s order, the ship must set sail and get underway."

Best Friends

"She mailed me 10 birthday gifts last year because she said it’s been 10 years since we’ve been friends. So 10 years equals to 10 gifts!"

Contentment

"......Wishing for a better life is not a problem of course, but if the happiness of others makes us feel less about ourself, then we are missing an important ingredient in life and that is, contentment."